Shouldn’t everyone love themselves? Everyone should love themselves, right?

I mean, why wouldn’t anyone love themselves? It doesn’t make any sense.

It’s not that easy, though.

You might think you love yourself, but you don’t.

And you can see this in how you treat yourself.

What you do and don’t do shows whether you love yourself.

So, what are the behaviors that show you don’t love yourself?

Here are ten of them:

10 Signs That You Don’t Love Yourself: Self-Hating Behaviors

1. You do not forgive yourself

You do not love yourself if you forgive everyone except yourself. You don’t love yourself if you forgive everyone but yourself.

We are not perfect humans, and we do not always do the right thing.

That is why you should not be too hard on yourself when you make mistakes, especially if you have a set of moral standards to follow.

I fall into this category, and I constantly have to remind myself to forgive myself for things I regret doing.

I believe that pride is one of the primary reasons we struggle to forgive ourselves.

We sit on our moral high horses and wonder, “How could I have done such a thing? Me!”

Who are you not to?

Really.

So, who are you?

You are human.

2. You do not compliment yourself

While it’s good to be complimented by others, you should make it a habit to compliment yourself.

What are your strengths, gifts, and abilities?

Do you appreciate them or downplay them?

How often do you tell yourself that you’re beautiful, intelligent, and gifted?

Or do you think there’s no big deal about your special abilities and features?

If you don’t compliment yourself often, you don’t love yourself.

3. You don’t accept compliments

Accepting compliments is an expression of self-love. Accepting compliments is a sign of self-love.

Some people have a habit of downplaying compliments they receive.

They believe people are just flattering them. They don’t believe compliments.

When people say nice things about you, believe them. Don’t believe they are lying.

Who are you if you are not awesome?

4. You displease yourself in order to please others

While it is admirable to be selfless and go above and beyond for others, you should not live your life solely to please others at the expense of your own. While it’s good to be selfless and go the extra miles for people, you shouldn’t constantly live to please others at the expense of your own well-being.

Self-love often involves prioritizing one’s own safety and happiness, as pleasing others is impossible.

Constantly making yourself unhappy in order to make others happy is a bad habit that should be broken.

5. You constantly criticize and look down on yourself

Nobody has it all together, but you should love yourself anyway. No one has it all put together, but you should love yourself regardless.

If you are constantly finding faults in yourself and everything you do, you do not love yourself.

If you think less of yourself and never see anything positive about yourself, you clearly do not love yourself.

Some people say to themselves:

“I am really stupid.”

“I’m so dull.”

“I can’t do anything right.”

“Why am I a loser?”

“I’m ugly.”

“Nobody loves me.”

“I’ll never find true love.”

“Nobody loves me.”

Blah blah blah!

These are not the words of someone who loves themselves.

6. You do not take care of yourself

Self-love requires physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional well-being. You don’t love yourself when you don’t take care of yourself physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally.

Do you eat healthily?

Do you get good sleep? (I need to answer this question as well because it is after 3 a.m. and I am still awake. I do not get enough sleep, and it’s even worse with a baby to care for.

Do you get any exercise? (This is me again. I’m hoping that when my baby starts daycare, I’ll have a workable schedule to resume exercising.

Do you make an effort to look and smell nice?

If you do not take care of yourself, you will not be able to perform to your full potential, and your body will soon protest.

You have only one body. Take proper care of it.

7. You do not invest in yourself

You don’t love yourself when you don’t make efforts to improve on yourself in every aspect of your life.

Personal development is crucial to living a quality life.

Do you make efforts to acquire the necessary skills you need to be successful in life? What efforts are you making to be good at what you do?

No amount of money, time, and resources are too much to ensure that you’re a better version of yourself.

8. You make excuses for your weaknesses

I’ve already established that no one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you should continue to justify your flaws and weaknesses. I already established the fact that there’s no perfect human, but this doesn’t mean you should keep justifying your flaws and weaknesses.

In fact, self-love is the understanding of one’s own strengths and weaknesses. It is about maximizing your strengths while working on your weaknesses.

For example, instead of justifying your anger and blaming everyone but yourself, consider taking some anger management classes. How about going to counseling?

Stop making excuses for your mistakes or blaming others for them.

Instead, accept responsibility and seek change.

9. You are involve in self-destructive behaviors

You truly do not love yourself if you engage in habits that jeopardize your life and sanity. You really do not love yourself when you engage in habits that put your life and sanity at risk.

Using drugs, driving drunk, engaging in unprotected s*x, particularly with strangers, reckless driving, eating unhealthy foods, and so on. Only show how much you value yourself.

Why would you engage in behaviors that could shorten your life if you truly love yourself?

One bad decision can ruin your entire life. It has the potential to destroy everything you’ve worked so hard to create throughout your life.

10. You maintain toxic relationships

If you remain in relationships where you’re treated less than you deserve, then you don’t love yourself.

People can’t love, respect, or treat you better than you do yourself. You set the pace for how you’ll be treated by others.

Why will you make excuses for someone who keeps treating you like trash if you love yourself?

Perhaps you’re doing one or more of these things to yourself. This article isn’t to judge you but to encourage you to practice self-love.

I am also guilty of some of these things.

Sometimes, I find it hard to forgive myself; I don’t get enough sleep, and I excuse my weaknesses, but I’m glad I have this article to always remind me never to give up on myself, and I hope it will remind you too (if you save it).